I love cows! Who doesn't!? So when I was asked to get dressed up as one for this year's St
Patrick's day parade in Central London 2 weeks ago, in accordance with the
rules of the New List, I gave it a good ol' Mrs Doyle stylee 'Go on!'.
Who, What, When, where? See, this wasn't just any old cow I was being asked to impersonate,
I was going to be a Frisian Cow! Frisian's, by the way, happen to be my second
favourite cow, all hail the Highland! I
would be joining a small troupe of fellow heifers as part of Mandinga Artssection, alongside some giant golden peacocks and Pineapple Baianas. I'm
not remotely Irish (that I know of....) so at least this year I had a genuine
reason to go out and celebrate St Paddy's day. The parade route took us
from Green Park, through to Piccadilly Circus, Trafalgar Square and ending up
in Whitehall a stones throw from Downing Street.
Pineapple Man & Baianas (Mandinga Arts)
Why? Choreography is
comfortable. Improv on the other
hand, can be scary because there’s nothing to fall back on, it’s just you. St Paddy’s day performance was all about improv, and as part of a big moving parade, it was going
to be a challenge.
Last night I was up till all hours, partaking in some early morning/late night hair styling. Typical!
My hair's freshly washed, sealed with an olive/coconut oil combo and chunky twisted in prep for a night out tomorrow, for anyone who's interested ;).
To keep me company, and sometimes awake through my nocturnal hair styling sessions, I usually listen to the radio or watch a film, yesterday it was the turn of 'Dreams of a Life', a film I've been meaning to catch since last year.
In 2006 the body of a woman was found in her Wood Green flat. Sad yes, but nothing extraordinary there. But 38 year old Joyce Carol Vincent, whose friends described as vibrant attractive and popular, had lain undiscovered in her living room for up to three years; her TV, heating and lights still on, she was surrounded by Christmas presents. In that time no one had reported her missing and no one had come looking for her.
Dreams of a Life writer/director Carol Morley, pieces together the story of Joyce, a mysterious and enigmatic woman who people gravitated towards and yet few seemed to know. Interviews with her workmates, friends and former partners are cut with reconstructions of Joyce, played by Zawe Aston. It gradually brings to life a person who initially starts off as a faceless name, but a lot of questions where left unanswered.
It's hard to imagine someone becoming so invisible, at a time when it's supposedly easier than ever to stay connected to those around you. The story is made even more striking, because Joyce didn't fit the profile of someone who you thought might have died alone or been forgotten about. She wasn't elderly or reclusive or didn't not have any family or friends.
By the end you're left with the sad picture of a women who, for whatever reason, became increasing isolated from the people around her. Joyce's family declined to take part in the film, perhaps understandably wanting to remain anonymous. Maybe they would have given more insight into who Joyce was and why her life took the path it did, maybe not.
Dreams of a Life sounds like a really depressing night cap, but it was actually a compelling watch.
You can watch Dreams of a Life on 4 On Demand here. Sorry any non UK readers, the link won't work for you, but here's the trailer instead.
To phony or not to phony? This is a question that as a part time samba
dancer I've asked myself several times.
Dunno what I'm on about. I’ll show you. What do these
beautiful Brazilian passistas have in common?
Lovely, lovely passistas (blackwomenofbrazil.com)
They’re all wearing itsy bitsy shiny bikinis, have the same
megawatt smiles, but hang on one cotton picking minute! You there! I say, Miss
Blue there’s something different about you! Its....its.....Bingo! It’s the hair. You‘re not sporting the same luscious hair as the others.
For many passistas ‘Megahair': long, flowing, ultra feminine hair, usually loosely curled, is part of the look and hair flicking, a compulsory part of any self respecting
mulata’s choreography. You don’t often see passistas sporting natural afro’s like
Clara Paixao, who I featured last month in Carnaval carry on. Those
who don’t naturally possess Megahair, fake it, turning to
Brazilian blow outs, weaves, wigs, extensions and straighteners, and then, there’s
the phony pony.
Being the centre of the samba world, Brazil dictates samba
fashion. So if the samba gods decree female dancers be decked with flowing
manes of hair, then so it shall be, and most female dancers obey this command. But
not I.
When I dance, I never straighten my hair or never wear it out.
I have my natural hair in protective styles like twists, tied back or
pinned out of the way (like below mini twists, pinned back), and here’s why.
2. When you samba you sweat! You could be wearing a samba bikini outdoors in 7˚C London (yes I’ve done that before), and after a couple of minutes you're perspiring in places you never knew had sweat glands. Think about that next time you want to hug up close to a passista 'n' get your picture, mwhaha! Freshly straightened hair wouldn’t stand a chance, sweating out sooner than you can say ‘afro’.
3. Samba dancers wear elaborate headdresses that are secured tightly onto our heads. They might look stunning, but after a while your skull feels like it’s being crushed and your hair’s the only thing providing any cushioning. Us passista’s have to suffer a little for our art!
Say a big, friendly hello to our second London Natural Beauty of the year. A beautiful mother, dancer, singer, student and lover of life from Belgium, Isabelle!
Name: Isabelle (some call me Izy) Age: is irrelevant Natural since: May 2011. Let's get
started, shall we...?
December
2011 - ....yeah ok, I blow dry my hair to make it bigger! March 2012 - There is still remnants of my
coloured hair. December 2012 - Yay! I can finally make a pony tail! All my
coloured hair is gone! Now it's really 'au naturel'!
When You Gonna:Tell us about your hair journey.Why did you decide to go Natural?
Isabelle: To
start off with, I want to clarify, I didn't GO Natural, I AM Natural! Like most African women, before growing our own
opinion about ourselves, I was forced to obey clear rules and conform to the
norm in order to look acceptable. Without much thinking I embraced it. Never
mind the numerous failures and mistakes, never mind using toxic products and
risking being bold. Never mind the huge amount of time and money
"invested." I started to alter the nature of my hair since oh... oh hang on! I thought I was born with tresses on! Anyway once you reach your
teens, the incredible business of trying to rule your hair the way they refuse
to, is second nature. It took my boyfriend telling me endlessly that
he adored my hair to take a second look at what Mama gave me. That's how, for the
first time of my conscious life I decided to love, accept and care for what I
had. It's one of the best decisions I have ever made!
WYG: Describe
your hair?
I: My hair is absolutely amazing. No, seriously! It is soft and adapts pretty well to whatever
I want. I can make it into a large big afro or sophisticated 40's hairstyle, I
can make it wavy, curly, straight... I love it! Only down side, it is so not in a hurry to
grow and can break pretty easily. Oh, and it shrinks like crazy! But a more objective viewer would describe my
hair as 4C-4D, Black and roughly 25cm long.
WYG: What
is your hair like at the moment:
I: Ah! It's
winter time so I want to minimise manipulations. I put my hair in a protective
style: loose dread lock that I redo every 4 to 6 weeks.
WYG: What's
your routine like?
I: I always
try to keep it as simple as possible but not simpler. I co-wash my hair every month. As you may know
already co-washing is washing hair with conditioner. It's less aggressive than
regular shampoo and still contains enough cleansing agent. Every morning I lightly spray my hair with water
(I want to try coconut water soon) to hydrate it. Then I gently seal the moisture at the tip of my
hair with natural oils. It can be coconut oil, avocado oil, rosemary oil or Shea butter depending on the state of my hair, my mood and the weather outside. I style and go. At night I wrap my hair in a silk scarf....Nooooot! It would be THE thing to do! But I'm working on it...'
WYG: Favourite
products
I: I
couldn't go without water, coconut oil and Shea butter!
Shea Butter
WYG: Top
tips?
I: Forget the
noise of the new miracle products here and what your best friend's doing there.
Just listen to what your hair has to
say. It knows best!
WYG: Best
thing about being Natural
I: It's
almost a spiritual journey, first it takes love, acceptance, care to grow your
own hair. It takes love, acceptance and care to be a beautiful woman. Secondly,
symbolically speaking, it is reclaiming our true nature. It is refusing to
comply with a certain idea of beauty that is not ours. It is finally regaining
the respect for our own individuality.
WYG: Thank you very much Isabelle, some wise words if we ever did hear them!
Women of the World stand up! This Friday, March 8th is International Women's day. Whether or not you find that yay or groan inducing, I'll be celebrating by attending a slew of lady orientated shindigs. This weekend i'll be heading to the WOW - Women of the World festival at the Southbank. I have my Saturday and Sunday Day passes, woot woot, and I can't wait to sample the delights of Weave vs Natural? The politics of Afro Hair chaired by Hannah Pool, Ruby Wax's 'Out of her Mind', The Guys Guide to Feminism and many others. My hungry mind is positively licking it's lascivious lips!
It's
a straightforward question, right?
But just having a goal is the easy part, reaching it is usually where
the difficulty lies.
One
of my biggest problems is that my goals are never long term enough. I reach one
milestone and then put my feet up before embarking on the next. Stop - Start
or starting and not finishing, the story of my life!
I
have a PG Journalism diploma, but several years after achieving this and still
paying off my student loan, I'm not a working journo. This wouldn't be an issue if my life had changed direction or if being a journalist was no longer my dream,
but it's a resounding no on all those counts. Suffice to say 'wasteful' doesn’t quite
cut it when I think of the time and money I have invested into my dream. It’s
taken a while to pick myself up by the scruff of the neck, but 2013 is my year , so in January I bit the bullet and signed up to Women in Journalism (WIJ).
Last
night I went to ‘What’s Holding You Back:
Executive coaching seminar’ with Fran Moscow, hosted by WIJ.
Fran Moscow’s an accredited
Executive Coach and Managing Director of her own Consultancy company.
There were lots of tips about networking, getting
what you want without alienating your colleagues and most importantly,
overcoming self imposed barriers when it comes to achieving you career goals, just what I need.